The Dominatrix


I’m sitting in the car as Momma G is in town rocking away to some tunes and turns to me and asks, “Have you ever listened to ‘Guys We F****d’ podcast?” I immediately looked at her and say… what?! Wait.. this cool chick was just telling me about that podcast the other night. But my question for Momma G was, “How in the hell would you have known about that?!” *No response was needed.. she tells me about practically everything.. let’s just be honest*

Our fingers both raced to the podcast app and of course we randomly clicked on probably the raunchiest episode and the topic of ‘Dominatrix’ popped up. According to Dictionary.com, the definition of a Dominatrix is as follows: A dominating woman, especially one who takes the sadistic role in sadomasochistic sexual activities. Let’s go a step further and use this in a sentence.. The Dominatrix tied her slave to the bedpost and prepared to whip his ass.

 

Momma G and I are laughing our asses off, while Katie’s refusing to listen to any of it. Instead, she pops in her headphones and proceeded to listen to her Eckhart Tolle, which obviously proves she is much more enlightened than Momma G and I. We get through about a quarter of the podcast and arrive at our destination and just continued to laugh. Because of our so-called ADD, we see a few butterflies, chase after a squirrel and move onto the next topic but eventually we do gain full circle.  

We get back in the car the following day, once again I made her drive me because obviously I like to be chauffeured around and don’t always care for random Uber drivers (especially middle aged/overweight men) asking me for diet and exercise advise … or the few that feel it necessary to express to me how shocked they are to find out I’m “So much nicer and not a total B***h, compared to most of the models in Hollywood that they drive around.” *Well I guess this is me now being a bitch* But I promise I’m not.

After admittedly being intrigued by this topic, I decided to do a little of my own personal research… Yes the movie 50 Shades of Grey was watched ;) I came across a very interesting article in Psychology Today that spoke about the demand particular men have for paradoxically and simultaneously experiencing the pain and pleasure of being dominated. Everyone has an erotic pain level; it’s just about letting go and opening up to your partner. 

Dominatrix isn’t about the physical act of intercourse; the dominatrix is not even touched. The practice is about the surreal erotic fantasy of breaking past both the societal and your psychological boundaries. Fantasies are explored and the mind is freed. And yes, orgasms can be achieved.

I became fascinated and continued to read. A large population desires this form of emotional intimacy. They desire this escapism to this seemingly arena for adult role-play and shift of power. I began to think of the emotional attachment that could be created because of this particular practice within relationships. This bond between the partners is so much more than just physical intimacy; it requires extreme levels of trust, openness and fantasy. Why don’t more people connect with their partners through this sensual practice? It’s connecting with your partner very sensually on an intellectual level. It’s empowering. Sometimes serving, obeying, and being pushed and stretched to your limits can possibly be the deepest way to connect with your partner.

These are just my thoughts, I’m not into this practice but found it quite interesting. I think the mind should be freed and there are so many ways to connect with your partner intimately without just having intercourse. The psyche is so much stronger than we think and we crave emotional intimacy.

No Momma G, I don’t own any whips… at least not yet ;)


6 comments


  • Taj

    Can i talk to u on snapchat


  • Steven Kovacs

    Different strokes for different folks!


  • Paul

    Bri, thank you for interesting article! Like many men, I have fantasies about being dominated by a beautiful woman. Someone like your self, a gorgeous blonde with a little evil streak. It’s defenonatelty something you should try with a trusted partner ! It can be very stimulating, and as you said, it’s all about letting go.


  • Dalton Baxter

    Found this very interesting, I came out of this article learning more than I did before I read this. Continue with this kinda stuff, and you’ll be a professor haha. I always had a different view on dominatrix and I was always kind of confused on them. You helped me learn that they aren’t at all what I thought they were. Continued success, Dalton (snapchat- dbax180)


  • Jason Teston

    Wow That was very interesting read for sure Bri. I do feel the same way you can feel a connect with some one with out touching them. I am not sure i would want to express myself though pain with my partner. But i would explore other means with them to make our connection stronger that is for sure. Bri who ever wins your heart will be a lucky man or woman. Because you pretty smart and lovely you have so many quality that make you a powerful woman. You love to explore your mind. You do a great job of being healthy. I do feel lucky to just know you even if it is with no contact i just feel something for you i cant really explain. I just know i want to be a friend to you always. Do have a great birthday week. an one fabulous birthday this Sat. for a Fabulous person like your self.


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